Okay, so here's the deal...
A friend of mine confided in me on saturday (alcohol induced talk.. but talk all the same) about cumming too fast. He asked what he could do to help sort this problem, and being the friendly guy I am I offered to help. I use to suffer from this problem myself, but after being open with it with my girlfriend things got better. He doesn't have a girlfriend, and never has actually, for that very reason. He's just afraid of being embarressed, and really, who can blame him?

So in my quest to help him I decided to take a search on the good ole' dancesafe search tool under the terms "Premature Ejaculation". Now I admit I didn't exactly look very hard, but I found basically zilch. And seeing as this seems to be a very common problem amongst young men I thought why not start this thread to help others who may be too embarressed to speak up about it. Believe me, it's VERY embarressing.

I found my cure when I was prescribed citalopram for depression. And by sweet mother of God it was the cure! Then I got some nasty-ass side effects, so I switch to sertraline and although it worked better for my depression with less side effects, I became a semi-premature ejaculator again, much to my displease. Then I stopped taking my sertraline altogether as it was actually making my depression worse than better (I find burning a mixture of pure lavender, chamomile and clary sage a much more effective, side-effect free substitute). Though did my PE come back? No no no it didn't . Despite that I am reluctant to attribute it to the SSRI, I think maybe I was just relieved of some of the anxiety I was experiencing. Because of that I am reluctant to advise my friend to fake depression symptoms to a doctor just so he can get a lousy, crappy SSRI (essential oils FTW!).

Thought I did a bit of online research, and after trailing through pages advertising quite expensive self-help guides online came across someone mentioning that serotonin deficency is linked to PE. Shortly after I came across someone mentioning the St John's Wort can act as a mild SSRI with greatly reduced side effects. Even some mentioning using SJW along with 5-HTP to give themselves a serotonin boost.
A few things I would like to ask, is this true about SJW? Is it safe to use with 5-HTP? Is PE linked to low serotonin levels, if so would that explain citalopram making me want to hump/humping anything that moved for hours on end?

Now, enough of the chemical remedies. What about kegal exercises? Do these work well? If so how much/how often must one do these?
Desensitising creams/gels, do these even work? Would they be appropriate to slap on when going to get jiggy with a new girlfriend for the first time who is unaware of this problem?

Start-stop method, I tried this myself, and it done absolutely nothing for me. Has it worked for anyone else?

Masturbation before sex? Wouldn't it just be a passion killer?

These are just a few ideas I've thought of mentioning to him myself, has anyone else got any "miracle cures". Or anything that might help ease his mind?
Anyone else suffering from the same problem and wish to speak up?

Happy humping